Valentine’s Day is often filled with grand gestures of romantic love, but it can also be a perfect opportunity to celebrate the most important love of all—the love you have for yourself. Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean being lonely or sad; in fact, it’s a great time to embrace self-care and focus on your emotional well-being.
Expectations for Singles
How people perceive Valentine’s Day can vary depending on where they’re from. Coming from Latin America, I’ve noticed that love is often expressed through gifts and romantic gestures, making it an anticipated event. This can sometimes create pressure for those without a partner, leading to feelings of loneliness or exclusion. Some may even experience negative self-evaluation, associating singleness with personal failure, which can impact emotional well-being. However, there are many ways to reframe this perspective—minimizing the day’s significance, embracing self-love, and strengthening friendships can be great ways to celebrate love in all its forms.
How to Celebrate Being Single on Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day can also be a day for introspection and manifestation. Use this time to reflect on the kind of partner you’d like to attract. A simple yet powerful ritual is to write down the qualities and values you desire in a future partner. This practice can help you set intentions and align yourself with the love you truly deserve. If you want some guidance with manifestation, I recommend Manifest Your Deepest Desires course, created by the founder of Umaversity, Jo Sarah.
If you’re spending Valentine’s Day solo this year, here are some fun and meaningful ways to enjoy it:
Treat Yourself to Something Special – Buy yourself a gift, whether it’s a book, flowers, a new outfit, or something that makes you feel good. You don’t need to wait for someone else to make you feel special.
Prioritize Your Well-Being – Plan an at-home spa night with a relaxing bath, face masks, and scented candles. Meditation or yoga can also help you connect with yourself on a deeper level.
Indulge in Your Favorite Meal – Cook a dish you love or order from your favorite restaurant. Savoring good food is a great act of self-love.
Plan a Fun Outing with Friends – Celebrate friendship by going out with your favorite people. Whether it’s a dinner, movie night, or a fun activity, it can turn the day into something special. If you’re up for something different, cities like Amsterdam host speed-dating events on Valentine’s Day—this can be a fun way to meet new people and share some laughs with friends.
Take a Social Media Detox – If seeing couples’ posts makes you feel down, take a break from social media. Focus on what makes you happy instead of comparing yourself to others.
Do Something You Love – Spend time on an activity that brings you joy, whether it’s reading, painting, watching your favorite series, or picking up a hobby. Doing what you love reinforces your personal happiness.
Explore Conscious Sexuality – Connection with your body is an essential part of self-love. Dedicate this day to exploring your sensuality in a mindful way—through self-care, meditation, or discovering new ways to experience pleasure that make you feel good about yourself.
Dealing with Feelings of Loneliness
It’s natural to feel lonely on occasions like Valentine’s Day, but there are ways to navigate these emotions in a healthy way:
Remember that being single doesn’t mean being alone – Think about the amazing people in your life and appreciate those meaningful connections.
Practice Gratitude – Write down a list of things you’re grateful for. Shifting your focus to what you have instead of what you lack can boost your mood.
Express Love in Other Ways – Write yourself a love letter, highlighting your achievements and qualities. Or, brighten someone else’s day by sending a heartfelt message to a friend or family member.
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for couples—it’s a day to celebrate love in all its forms, including the love you have for yourself. Take this opportunity to remind yourself of your worth and enjoy your own company. Being single is a wonderful time to grow, discover who you are, and, most importantly, learn to love yourself.
Give Yourself the Gift of Growth
If you’re looking for a deeper self-care experience, why not gift yourself a session to explore conscious sexuality and attract healthier relationships? A sexological consultation can help you reconnect with your body, embrace your sensuality, and understand the patterns that shape your relationships. Take this step towards self-discovery and book your session today—you deserve it!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
With love,
Mariana
Mariana Barrios Morales, is a psychologist, sexologist, sex coach, couple’s therapist, and coach integration microdosing from Latin America, Venezuela. She is living in the Netherlands.
As a passionate and dedicated sexologist, I focus on promoting positive sexual health and well-being. With a deep understanding of human sexuality, I offer personalized consultations, education, and guidance to individuals and couples. My commitment is to create a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration and growth.
Book a session with Mariana at marianatusexologa.com
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